Extroverted Intuitive Feeling Judging
DRIVER Fe Extroverted Feeling Harmony
Asks: What gets everyone’s needs met? What is everyone feeling?
ENFJs believe that what matters most is that groups are getting along and working together to progress the state of the community. They often take a leadership role in enforcing the goals and cohesiveness of the groups. They are concerned about connection, emotions of others, caring, unity, peace, tranquility, selflessly setting aside own desires, empathy, cooperation. They also try to mitigate conflict and they are in general very good at mitigating conflict. They tend to choose their battles as wisely as possible, looking at the state of the group as a whole and deciding whether this conflict is worth the damage it could do to the emotional states of other people. The ENFJ takes their consideration of cohesiveness for granted, assuming that everyone is concerned with the community working together.
PASSENGER Ni Introverted Intuition Prophetic
Asks: What could be? How could everyone be feeling? What future is the group heading to?
The job of Ni is to support Fe by giving it a purpose and a focus. Ni gives the ENFJ a reason to care about everyone’s emotions and needs and why it pertains to them. Fe by itself is a very selfless function, organizing groups for the maximum level of harmony, but Ni gives the ENFJ a selfish reason as it realizes the group and the community directly affect their future. This provides them with a motivation keep the peace and keep the group together. Paired with Ni, Fe sees the potential of their community or group. They tend to think preventing sacrifice and peace brings the group to a convergent good future that the ENFJ is aiming for. It is for this reason that they often talk about the future that they envision for the group and how it would improve their conditions drastically if they just focused on this. Their ability to concentrate a group on a single beneficial future is almost legendary. Because Ni is their helping function, ENFJs enjoy teaching and explaining things so people can understand better. If Ni takes over too much, the ENFJ can use their ability for group cohesiveness to focus on a future that is only beneficial to them. The might disregard the experience of others, arguing that their future is the only one that matters. But this is only if Ni gets controlling. In general, ENFJs are selfless and concerned about a future that is beneficial to each person individually. The ENFJ needs the Ni good parent to make sure that its sacrifices for logical truth in the group are working towards a future. It will use theories and innate understanding of how humans work and work together to enhance its abilities. Drawing on what it notices about other people.
10 YEAR OLD Se Extroverted Sensing REALITY
Asks: What is happening? What is everyone doing and does it promote the cohesiveness of the group? Am I giving everyone the best possible experience?
ENFJs exist in the physical world in a very childlike way. Riding the way of experiences and using the present moment to provide information to Ni understandings of their future and to Fe judgments of the emotional states of those around them. If the dominant function ignores Ni and focuses on Se too much, their desire for group cohesiveness and harmony becomes shortsighted and they will spread themselves too thin. They may stomp down any experience that disrupts peace and get emotionally controlling, but if Se is completely ignored and the ENFJ only focuses on Fe and Ni, then they will forget to check with the current experience to make sure that reality is on track with the future they see. This can cause them to become removed from reality, thinking that everyone is getting along and in line with the goals of the future when there is evidence right in front of them that the group is actually falling apart. A pure experience in reality is what re-centers the ENFJ, and gives them a sense of relief. And like children, any experience can feel beautiful and transcendent. If people attack the ENFJs sense of reality and how they are currently experiencing the world, they can become defensive and paralyzed. They will doubt the future they see if they are accused of not seeing the present accurately. They will also doubt the connections they feel with others and become paranoid about whether people actually like them. The devil side of the ENFJ Se devalues the experiences of others in the name of a good future for themselves. They will ruin the present so that people will follow them to a promised future. The angelic side of ENFJ Se reminds us to experience everything as a child would. In the most pure form of enjoyment and what this experience of reality means gives us a positive future.
3 YEAR OLD Ti Introverted Thinking ACCURACY
Asks: What makes sense to me? How did I logically arrive at the future and how accurate am I?
The ENFJ has a love hate relationship with Ti. Consciously, the ENFJ will suppress its desire for logical thinking and for things to make sense. In their mind, Ti is associated with being critical and that upsets the peace of the group. Being accurate is a sacrifice they make to keep the group moving forward. It isn’t important to be right as much because being right causes conflict which can cause the group to break apart and then the future will not be realized. But Ti still has a desire to know that they are right. In a very basic way, ENFJs desire a sense of truth about their realizations of the future and the group. They want to believe that what they see makes sense. And they can become obsessed with this themselves. Denying other people’s desire for truth, searching for their own and then projecting that in the group. For them, it doesn’t matter if the group itself is acting accurately, as long as they know the truth, then they can steer the group to a future with the best experience. They use this obsession with accuracy and truth in their judgments of people fueling it to understand people as well as possible and prevent possible conflict. If Ti is not seeing people accurately it can cause upset with the other functions and paralyze their ability to predict conflict and prevent it. In this state they will become obsessed with logical truth, spouting about every fact possible not realizing that most logical pathways are irrelevant. It is the job of Ni to remind Fe that objective truth and disagreements are important for the group to progress.
DETOUR Fi Introverted Feeling MORALS
Asks: How do I feel about it? Is this right and wrong?
ENFJs are often unaware of how they feel about anything or whether something is morally right because they are so concerned with how everyone else is feeling. Thinking about how they feel about something is very difficult for them because they can be so clouded with how others feel. If ENFJs are regularly asked how they feel, they can grow frustrated or stubborn. Refusing to answer until they know how you or the collective group feels about it. Fe is a faster function, it quickly judges the emotions of others based on abstract understandings it holds about people. FI forces the ENFJ to slow down and consider how they feel. This can be fascinating to them though not having ever considered how they feel, they might distrust its objectivity but they also respect it, appreciating people that know how they feel pulls them out of constantly judging other peoples emotions and it also challenges them to figure out their own feelings before they judge others to prevent them from assuming the emotions of others onto themselves. Understanding their own feelings can give their dominant function a greater purpose and focus.
COP Ne Extroverted Intuition CREATIVE
Asks: What could be? What if? How do I know this?
ENFJs are the most critical of their inability to explain their understanding of people. And they also often criticize other people’s abilities to understand complex concepts and each other. They also often wish that their prophetic abilities applied to more people instead of a small close group that they feel close too. They often wish that they could help way more people understand and for this reason they very much enjoy teaching and helping people understand each other on a deeper and more theoretical sense. They may also teach people activities normally associated with Se (i.e. dancing, skiing, karate or anything physical that helps you live in the moment) to people in the hopes that it forms a close-knit group that will then improve on everyone’s understanding of each other. They will beat at their own ability to explain their understanding effectively and for this reason spend a lot of time perfecting their ability to understand how they understand people. While ENFJs often criticize their ability to teach and explain their understandings, the truth is they are actually quite good at it, so good that they often gather big groups of people to listen to them, the problem with this is that they can over teach sometimes spreading their understanding to people that would abuse it.
SPEEDOMETER Si Introverted Sensing MEMORY
Asks: What has happened before? What has been done before? What did I do before?
The ENFJ decides that what has happened, been done before or what has happened to them doesn’t really matter. They may be fond of some sentiment ENFJs think that they understand the past and remember their past, they might refer to anecdotes of their own experience however their ability to recall the past is often regarded as pathetic. And if they get the past wrong, they often dismiss it as not important, the details of the experience of the past isn’t important as long as they understand the essence of it. Yes I get that that happened like you believe it did, but what is happening right now? What is happening right now is more important, help me to understand that. ENFJs believe that the past is subjective. The past could be anything. And in fact people who experience the same thing often give different accounts of it. And also there is no way for the ENFJ to confirm another person’s experience which is why they often redirect the focus to the current reality. It’s right in front of them, they can confirm that it is real. But ENFJs do not disregard all of the personal experience and their own personal experience they know that it matters a very small amount. And that somethings in the past are real.
SPEED LIMIT SIGN Te Extroverted Thinking
In order to see the emotional state of others and the culture they do not look logically at their actions. They simply cannot look at their actions without attaching an emotional meaning to them. They also do not judge their own actions in a way that reflects their own emotions, instead they want their own emotions to be separated from their environment, simply existing in reality so that they can accurately judge the emotional state of others. To them, actions are not reflective of an emotional state so the actions of people are largely not even assessed.
How do ENFJs turn bad?
If ENFJs consciously disregard the morality of peoples actions and the importance of past experiences, and only find the future and harmony of the group to matter, they could use their ability to persuade others to do truly horrible things under the belief that the future is all that matters. The best experience in the future is worth sacrificing the past. This conforms people to their opinions and visions.
Lynnette in Red 